We’ve hit a spike in the elopement trend, with so many people loving the level of intimacy they provide along with some pretty killer photos, all on a friendly budget. There are so many legit reasons to choose to elope rather than having a traditional wedding, but even brides who are #teamelopement have had a hard time committing to their decision because they don’t want their loved ones to be left out of their celebration.
Have no fear, my lovely bride, I come bearing good news! Having an elopement doesn’t mean keeping your nearest and dearest out of the loop. If you’re feeling torn between having a romantic adventure for your wedding and being surrounded by your family, this post is for you!
Sometimes you can have your cake and eat it too. *wink*
This is one of the most fun ways to involve a loved one on your big day! Whether that person is a cousin, a sibling, or a mutual best friend, ask them to accompany you both on your big day by officiating your ceremony! Chris and I did this with my grandfather, who has always been very involved in my life. When we were planning our wedding, we asked him to be the one to marry us and a year later, since he was already ordained, he married my mom and step-father in their own elopement!
If you go this route, you’ll want to make sure your chosen officiant takes care of all the legalities on getting ordained and notarizing any document you’ll need to sign. This can be as simple as making a call to your county’s clerk’s office, but can vary from state to state and having a destination elopement can introduce additional legalities so it is important that everyone is on the same page. The last thing you want is to have to figure out a legal snafu when you’re supposed to be enjoying newlywed bliss!
If you plan on wearing a special dress to say your vows in (Yes, you CAN still wear a wedding dress when you elope!), invite the ladies in your life to join you on your hunt! Pro Tip: Make a day of it by scheduling a few appointments at different shops and take a brunch break! Even though they won’t catch you walking down an isle, they will get to see you dressed up in person and be part of your decision to say yes to the dress! This leads us to tip #3…
It’s a common misconception that elopements are secret marriages, held on a whim with little to no planning. While the amount of planning is substantially cut from that of a traditional wedding, it’s still very much part of creating your big day leaving plenty of decisions to be made! Not only does it never hurt to get a second opinion, but asking for your loved ones’ input shows that you genuinely value them and their opinion. If they are having a hard time accepting that they will not be present for your marriage, this could help soothe any hurt they may be feeling.
Okay, I just might be a little biased on this one, but I mean it! When you’re telling a story of something epic that happened in your life to someone who wasn’t present for it, what do you do? You show them photos! I promise you that investing in a photographer and/or videographer to document your elopement will not be something you regret. You will get to share one of the most special days of your life with all of your loved ones and you will be able to relieve that day every time you flip through those photos or watch that video. I get the chills just thinking about it!
This comes up often when you begin looking into planning an elopement and may be something that you’ve already considered. When you get back from saying your vows, be that touching down at the airport from a week long elopement/honeymoon trip or an afternoon at your local courthouse, you can have a get-together for your friends and family to celebrate with you! There’s truly a lot of fun to be had here – You can send invitations out for an evening soiree a week after you’re married or you can have a relaxed backyard BBQ that same day! The options are plentiful and you can have fun knowing that no matter how you go about it, it will be enjoyed and appreciated by your loved ones!
Weddings, no matter what kind you decide to have, are meant to be a joyful celebration – not a lonely journey! I hope these tips helped ease some concerns you may have with your elopement decision. I’ve dubbed myself the title of part-time wedding planner, so please don’t think twice about sending me an email with any questions you may have!
I am here for you!